Gorakhpur Trip
Writting blog after so many days. Not bcoz of workload but only coz I am very very lazy person.
Saw comments from Shahi that I am not updating my blog.. so Shahi ji ab Lambi si story pado..
I dont have good writting skills as you have so you may get bored but sorry i dont have any other option... so here I start...
Last week I went to Gorakhpur( Shahi's home town) to attend Yash's brother's Mariage. I left on monday and reached there on tuesday.I got the chance to get involve in all the rituals performed.I thought imarriage would be a 1 or 2 day affair but I was really surprised that it takes around 4 days to complete all the stuff. First time I watched all the functions except TILAk.
The marriage started on Friday with Tilak (I dont know what it is as I was not there ).
Then on tuedays ie day bfr marriage all the relatives( ladies and girls only) were putting haldi on Bhayia( not just one time but 5 times ) and in between bhayia couldn't take bath. he was completely turned dark yellow.
On wednesday ie marriage day, we were supposed to leave at 2 from gaon but as usual IST we left at 4 then reached gorakhpur city at 6 30(supposed to be there at 4) . Then we started travelling towards Bhabhi ji's house. I was in Maruti Alto along with Abha,Ranit(abha's friend) , and Yash's two younger cousins so I was the eldest among them and evryone was saying bhayia. Saala aisa lag raha tha ki 40 saal ka budha ho gaya hoon :)
Bhabhi's house was around 100 km from gorakhpur and it was almost in bihar. While travelling we had Smosas that really helped us allot to get some strength as road was in such a pathetic condition and bhabhi ji's gaon was too far away from city that it gave us the feeling that we were going for some jungle trip rather than going for Marriage. But yes at last we reached there.
The Santro( the car that were supposed to lead us :) ) in which Uncle (Yash's dad) and Yash were sitting reached after 1 hr. Uncle was so frustrated. actually they picked up wrong route and almost reached Bihar( They really dislike bihar as I do).
Ahha.... now there was surprise element and It gave me the feeling that i am in UP and what made me feel that was the Orchestra. not just songs guys but Dance ( two girls performing on defferent songs like "Pallu chuda liya" and Doom macha le ... )also. Ppl were sitting like Aditya use to sit bfr TV watching CNBC. Now I understand Shahi's interest in dance and singing( bhai Aakhir guitar hai uske pass :)
Then started bhangra time ( for UP ppl must be something else but I am punjabi so for me dance is Bhangra .... yeah that is different story that i dont know how to dance....)
Yash,abha, 5 or6 yash's cousin and ofcourse me yaar ... started dancing. gaane mujhe samajh manin nahi aa rahe the as they were not punjabi or might not even be hindi songs.. well bas chal rahe the... Sab paglon ki tarah naach rahe the....
Then Dwar puja started but we were still dancing phir kahin se haathi came and then we stopped... Then Var Mala.. Hamne bhayia ko udhaya so that bhabhi Bhayia ke gale main mala na daal sake... Lekin yaar bhabhi ko tho hamse bhi upar udhane vaale the..
Yaar bhabhi ji was so cute .. unhe dekh kar laga ki shaadi kar leni chahia aur voh bhi arrange marriage... Upar vaale dhyan rakhna hamara bhi...
After photograph session we again went to mandir where that orchestra was playing and we again started dancing.. then yash sang one song from Goa to mubai.... we danced , danced and danced ... then went for Pet Puja....
After that Shaadi ki rasme like lagan and then Phere... Then usually ppl take Bahu to home but here there was diffferent Bhayia ji had to come back home and then next day go back to sasuraal to take his wife home something called Gaona i guess ... seemed strange..
So we drove back home. it took around 3-4 hrs of driving .we reached home at 3. and then we had to drop ranit to gorakhpur station . so we again started travelling at 4 30.
Hey i forgot to mention my embarring moment.... Since there were two cars ... and evry one was expecting that i would drive one... and evryone was taking it by default that i knew driving...
I was really embarrased yaar... then Uncle had to arrange someone else to drive... I felt like digging myself somewhere...
After dropping ranit again started driving so that we could reach Sasuraal at night and come back home early morning...
Imagine yaar no sleep last night and then continuously traveling too and fro...
We thought of leaving ( Called VIDAI) early morning at 4 but u know we are Indian so we left at around 7 30...
another strange thing ... Hamen Bhabhi ji ko Sasuraal se lekar aana tha and guess who was the eldest among us ... bhayia itself.. an yash and myself after that.. Aisa lag raha tha Bache milke Masti maarne jaa rahen hai.. koi bada nahi tha saath main...
I guess if by chance someone has reached here he must be feeling bored by now so i will cut short ...
After reaching home , few more rasme and then we got the chance to talk to bhabhi.. she is not only cute but soft spoken also.. Bhojpuri main aur bhi acha lag raha tha.. Bhayia is really lucky..
bhayia was really excited for his first night... Lekin ham beech main haddi the na..
bahut Pareshaan kiya bhayia bhabhi ko... any time they were alone someone goes there to disturb them...
Then we decorated the Bedroom with flowers and started Antakshri . Continued till 1 and then gave couple the chance to enjoy :)
Next day went to gorakhpur city and then I came back here ( noida) along with abha...
I missed one thing . I didnt meet Shahi's Parents there. Somehow i just skipped that they might be in Gorakhpur as Shahi usually told me that they were in Jagdishpur...
I must say last week I really enjoyed allot. It was really great time after my banglore trip. On Monday i was not feeling like coming to office.. but that life is .. u have to move on and on....
I am really missing my parents, family and friends... Shahi can understand that as he is in US and must be feeling same...
I dont want to be alone anymore..... atleast for couple of days.....
For the past few years, Yesterday was the worst day for me. I cannot explain here what had happend to me. I was sort of crying.. I am hoping that this phase will soon get over......
Saw comments from Shahi that I am not updating my blog.. so Shahi ji ab Lambi si story pado..
I dont have good writting skills as you have so you may get bored but sorry i dont have any other option... so here I start...
Last week I went to Gorakhpur( Shahi's home town) to attend Yash's brother's Mariage. I left on monday and reached there on tuesday.I got the chance to get involve in all the rituals performed.I thought imarriage would be a 1 or 2 day affair but I was really surprised that it takes around 4 days to complete all the stuff. First time I watched all the functions except TILAk.
The marriage started on Friday with Tilak (I dont know what it is as I was not there ).
Then on tuedays ie day bfr marriage all the relatives( ladies and girls only) were putting haldi on Bhayia( not just one time but 5 times ) and in between bhayia couldn't take bath. he was completely turned dark yellow.
On wednesday ie marriage day, we were supposed to leave at 2 from gaon but as usual IST we left at 4 then reached gorakhpur city at 6 30(supposed to be there at 4) . Then we started travelling towards Bhabhi ji's house. I was in Maruti Alto along with Abha,Ranit(abha's friend) , and Yash's two younger cousins so I was the eldest among them and evryone was saying bhayia. Saala aisa lag raha tha ki 40 saal ka budha ho gaya hoon :)
Bhabhi's house was around 100 km from gorakhpur and it was almost in bihar. While travelling we had Smosas that really helped us allot to get some strength as road was in such a pathetic condition and bhabhi ji's gaon was too far away from city that it gave us the feeling that we were going for some jungle trip rather than going for Marriage. But yes at last we reached there.
The Santro( the car that were supposed to lead us :) ) in which Uncle (Yash's dad) and Yash were sitting reached after 1 hr. Uncle was so frustrated. actually they picked up wrong route and almost reached Bihar( They really dislike bihar as I do).
Ahha.... now there was surprise element and It gave me the feeling that i am in UP and what made me feel that was the Orchestra. not just songs guys but Dance ( two girls performing on defferent songs like "Pallu chuda liya" and Doom macha le ... )also. Ppl were sitting like Aditya use to sit bfr TV watching CNBC. Now I understand Shahi's interest in dance and singing( bhai Aakhir guitar hai uske pass :)
Then started bhangra time ( for UP ppl must be something else but I am punjabi so for me dance is Bhangra .... yeah that is different story that i dont know how to dance....)
Yash,abha, 5 or6 yash's cousin and ofcourse me yaar ... started dancing. gaane mujhe samajh manin nahi aa rahe the as they were not punjabi or might not even be hindi songs.. well bas chal rahe the... Sab paglon ki tarah naach rahe the....
Then Dwar puja started but we were still dancing phir kahin se haathi came and then we stopped... Then Var Mala.. Hamne bhayia ko udhaya so that bhabhi Bhayia ke gale main mala na daal sake... Lekin yaar bhabhi ko tho hamse bhi upar udhane vaale the..
Yaar bhabhi ji was so cute .. unhe dekh kar laga ki shaadi kar leni chahia aur voh bhi arrange marriage... Upar vaale dhyan rakhna hamara bhi...
After photograph session we again went to mandir where that orchestra was playing and we again started dancing.. then yash sang one song from Goa to mubai.... we danced , danced and danced ... then went for Pet Puja....
After that Shaadi ki rasme like lagan and then Phere... Then usually ppl take Bahu to home but here there was diffferent Bhayia ji had to come back home and then next day go back to sasuraal to take his wife home something called Gaona i guess ... seemed strange..
So we drove back home. it took around 3-4 hrs of driving .we reached home at 3. and then we had to drop ranit to gorakhpur station . so we again started travelling at 4 30.
Hey i forgot to mention my embarring moment.... Since there were two cars ... and evry one was expecting that i would drive one... and evryone was taking it by default that i knew driving...
I was really embarrased yaar... then Uncle had to arrange someone else to drive... I felt like digging myself somewhere...
After dropping ranit again started driving so that we could reach Sasuraal at night and come back home early morning...
Imagine yaar no sleep last night and then continuously traveling too and fro...
We thought of leaving ( Called VIDAI) early morning at 4 but u know we are Indian so we left at around 7 30...
another strange thing ... Hamen Bhabhi ji ko Sasuraal se lekar aana tha and guess who was the eldest among us ... bhayia itself.. an yash and myself after that.. Aisa lag raha tha Bache milke Masti maarne jaa rahen hai.. koi bada nahi tha saath main...
I guess if by chance someone has reached here he must be feeling bored by now so i will cut short ...
After reaching home , few more rasme and then we got the chance to talk to bhabhi.. she is not only cute but soft spoken also.. Bhojpuri main aur bhi acha lag raha tha.. Bhayia is really lucky..
bhayia was really excited for his first night... Lekin ham beech main haddi the na..
bahut Pareshaan kiya bhayia bhabhi ko... any time they were alone someone goes there to disturb them...
Then we decorated the Bedroom with flowers and started Antakshri . Continued till 1 and then gave couple the chance to enjoy :)
Next day went to gorakhpur city and then I came back here ( noida) along with abha...
I missed one thing . I didnt meet Shahi's Parents there. Somehow i just skipped that they might be in Gorakhpur as Shahi usually told me that they were in Jagdishpur...
I must say last week I really enjoyed allot. It was really great time after my banglore trip. On Monday i was not feeling like coming to office.. but that life is .. u have to move on and on....
I am really missing my parents, family and friends... Shahi can understand that as he is in US and must be feeling same...
I dont want to be alone anymore..... atleast for couple of days.....
For the past few years, Yesterday was the worst day for me. I cannot explain here what had happend to me. I was sort of crying.. I am hoping that this phase will soon get over......
Comments
Trip really sounds fun,i missed it..anyways u soon make plans for ur marriage
Guys don't get agitated to see my name so many times in this post.. coz this is one of the successful attempt to placate and appease me.. Maine bhaiji kee class jo le lee thee... Can you believe.. he went to my hometown and dint even tell me.. I got to know bout the trip from bhartiya when he was about to return...
Anyways.. now Rajiv do you think this post of yours claims only a concise comment... nope.. it needs another post to do justification.. so finally you have seen typical Gorakhpur Thakur Marriage.. Now my job has become easy.. you already are familiar with all the rituals. so in my marriage you'll be there to explain these to other friends.. and I bet you won't complain of missing Tilak as well as Barakshha and Ring Ceremony... You'll simply have to come...
You know what.. you made me senti and I have already started pining to return to my hometown, attend marriage of my cousins planned this summer. Who else can construe this post better than me..I could even read between the lines, the events and experiences you were not able to describe because of shortage of words, or space, or your concern of making the post boring to some... - That's why blog site comes here as a refuse.. coz here you don't have to worry about others getting bored reading it... they won't.. atleast your friends will never, and moreover you are writing for yourself not for somebody else..(but ofcourse it feels good to see comments against your post - AUTHOR'S PRIDE).
You don't have to bother about 'Gauna' in my marriage.. I'll never have patience to leave my beloved bride even a single day in her ex-house. Actually this ritual has become antiquated.. earlier gauna used to be after 3-5 years in some cases of child marriage.. gauna used to happen after 10-15 years - you just observed it for a single day. It is still predominant in a typical Gorakhpur area Brahmin marriage. So Aditya is an eligible candidate for observing this ritual - we all know he won't... he can never have patience - atleast in this case ;-) he can't wait.. did u notice what bothered him most on my post about him - gals liking him platonically...
okay where did baarat stay - in a school or aam ka bageecha, with khatia(charpai) laid down in open .. you might not have noticed fight for gadda, takiya..etc.. as you were in close circle of dulha... and I guess it was Kusmi jungle that you passed through.. you know that large jungle is just a sham beneath that there is huge Indian airforce base station with all kind of equipments and accoutrements..always ready for defensive attack... the songs that you're not able to follow were in bhojpuri.. which paandu and manish desperately wants to learn.. coz its there regional language as well...
I must say.. it was a very nice post.. it's very difficult to put the things you observed into words.. coz many nice experiences always remains in memories.. you can't capture them else where even if your very glib in elucidating verbally. You should try capturing these moments as a souvenier for days to come...when you won't be having any job to frustrate you.. and will be having ample time to reflect back on your bygone days.